Today’s topic is all about fetish. I actually am very glad that Tilly has taken on this topic. Many people associate BDSM with everything fetish when it’s not necessarily the case. Even better, she does a fantastic job discussing the topic where I kind of fumble around it. I’m so grateful for her being here to do this for me. Thank you from the bottom of my black leather knee high boots! Now let’s get to Tilly’s wonderful article, “I Don’t have a Fetish!”

Clinically speaking, a fetish is grounded in a recurring intensely passionate response in a person to an object, giving the item almost a magical power of their fantasies, and ultimately offers them sexual satisfaction. However, in today?s terms, unless you?re under the care of a psychologist, your fetish is that thing that arouses you sexually. Most often the fetish is for inanimate thing, although some may have a very necessary human quality. For instance, someone may have a strong sexual response to ladies lingerie no matter where they are seen [in a magazine, in person, or on a mannequin], while another will have just as strong a reaction to holding a bra.

Okay, let?s step away from defining our desire and putting our turn-on?s into tidy labeled boxes, and look at what sparks people?s sexuality to seriously burn.

According to British newspaper, The Independent, the most common sexual preference for body parts was feet and toes and not the ear, neck or nails. Confused now, aren?t you? Well, it isn?t simply the feet that will cause excitement, but their appearance has a part to play. While a woman may like to give herself a boost with a pedicure, it is often what they?re wearing that catches another?s attention. Stilettos, sandals, pumps, boots, all get the sexual juices flowing. Other items on the top turn-on?s list had something to do with dressing oneself. Costumes, jackets, hats, accessories filled out the top of the list which makes since when you think about role-playing in the bedroom.

That was the researchers take on the subject, but what?s actually being sold. Take a minute and think about your local sex shop or one you visit online. They?re in business to make money and will therefore carry what people are buying. The costumes mentioned above are there, but with a twist. Cheerleader, nurse, teacher and military pieces and others are present amongst the cat suits and corsets and they?re made out of latex, leather, rubber and vinyl. The tactile qualities of these fabrics are as much a turn on as the way they act like a second skin is for others. A third aspect which comes from the second skin idea is how the wearer feels bound in the very tight clothes, something that would also appeal to the BDSM crowd.

It?s time for the men to have a say, kind of. In the Top 10 Fetishes by Vanessa Burton on AskMen.com, the number one fetish was duet, Voyeurism and Exhibitionism. Watching was mainly the guys? thing, but quite a few women liked being watched while in an intimate position. These two often connected while resting at different ends of the same visual stimuli aren?t always about sex. Sometimes the undressing is exciting and as personal as intercourse. However, what needs to be remembered about voyeurs and exhibitionists is that anonymity plays a big role in their path to gratification.

There you have it. Physical, tactile and visual fetishes looked at from three different viewpoints and hopefully it took some of the ?I don?t have a fetish? out of the equation. Basically, if you are really aroused by that thing, have fun with it because you aren?t alone or all that different in what gets you off. Remember, the goal for a fetish is sexual gratification, and who doesn?t want that.

Tilly Greene

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References

Heels are the world’s No 1 fetish by Roger Dobson, The Independent: Science section (25 Feb 2007)

Top 10 Fetishes by Vanessa Burton, AskMen.com (not dated)

Another Interesting Article

6 Depraved Sexual that are Older than you Think by Nathan Reed, Cracked.com (Mar 30 2010) ? Personally, I?m not too keen on the word ?depraved? being used, although it is an interesting list.

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